The pressure is activated. The expectations are high. Red hearts, pink flowers and dinner reserves is just around the corner. Yes, Valentine’s Day is here.
The day even safer independent women hesitate, even coupled women care, they will end up disappointed. It is one of the most difficult days of the year when it comes to self -esteem. What is at stake is more than a night out or a box of chocolates, your feelings are often about yourself.
Many of us put our hearts … and our perception of ourselves, In the line of Valentine’s Day, because we have many expectations about how I should go. We decided that if we are alone on Valentine’s Day, there is something wrong with us. That we are not appointments or even adorable.
But this year I want you to put aside this idea and know it with love.
How can you feel less only on Valentine’s Day without falling into fatality and gloom?
Leave aside expectations and celebrate. Celebrate how incredible you are and give yourself a whim in the way you know you deserve, in a relationship or now.
Treat yourself so you can love yourself.
Devils, I suppose that when you put a real effort, you will treat you better than even the best men.
Because you know what you want most.
So here is the key …
Set the intention to have a good time.
And remember that you are no less special than a girl who has an appointment that night. In fact, it can even be more special, because you can have it exactly in your own way!
How often do you take time only for you?
There was a time when it cost me a lot to be alone. I believed that if I was alone, that meant that nobody loved me, so I never spent time alone. But the more I did, the more I loved me because it really spent time honoring my needs, not what someone else wanted.
And the more I loved myself, the more love attracted, because I didn’t need someone else to become happy.
Last year I was single on Valentine’s Day and made a plan to do something really fun and adventurous. I called my ‘weekend of self -love’. I drove an hour from Los Angeles and rented an Airbnb for me to visit a wolf sanctuary where I could go to a walk with the wolf package (TRUE!).
Then, I took an elegant French dinner later. With candles and wine, I read a book and fell asleep in my robe. It was glorious.
Now? I long for weekends for myself, without any obligation.
So, if you get out for a weekend or stay alone, here are some things you can do to feel very special and loved.
Take a bath
Essential oils, candles, bubbles, music, that book that you have intended to read … Oh, and do not forget a glass of wine. Turn off all your electronic products and simply wallpaper. Immerse yourself in oils and wallpaper in self -esteem.
Make Valentine’s Plans
Sometimes, going out with your girls is the best medicine. In fact, the love hormone, oxytocin, is released when three or more women are together. Who needs a man to drug love to you when the soul sisters will do well?
Have a gastronomic night in
This is not a day for food rules (or in any day really). Give yourself a whim with your favorite food. Let someone more cook you. Turn on some candles. Put some music. Have a romantic dinner with your only (you!) And savor every bite.
Go to the spa
A massage. A bodily scrub. Soaking in the hydromassage bathtub. There is nothing better. My favorite indulgence these days is the Korean spa. Only $ 25 per entrance and you can use all day all day.
Go to a museum
Aming only me or museums are more fun when you can wandering at will? Stay in the things you love. Read all descriptions without being hurried. And who knows, you could even meet someone single and intellectual who had the same brilliant idea.
Look your favorite cheesy movie or dive in a book
What is that movie you love more than anyone who wants to see with you? That. Look that.
Or invent something on your own!
Listen to your intuition. Enjoy. Get playful. And above all, remember to focus on love and abundance, I don’t lack it. You have everything you need. There is no other person who completes it until you feel complete on your own.
Are you single? How is Valentine’s Day for you? We argue!
